“All men are afraid of commitment and by the time I drag him to the alter I’ll be 80!″ Said Helen in frustration.
“First off, you can always get a new body and start fresh in your next incarnation, in case you won’t marry by 80… “ I tried to infuse some humor. “Secondly, there is a good reason when someone is terrified of commitment and it’s often buried a few centuries back, in a past life.”
Helen is smart, attractive, full of life, 33 years old woman. Joel, 36, her boyfriend of the last three years, won’t marry her. They love each other, even live together, but he keeps postponing. Her circle of friends is divided into two groups: Those who say “he’ll get there” and the other who says: ”send him to hell and get a serious one”.
I asked Helen to relax, focus on her breath and imagine a white light gradually filling up her body. Shortly after she was under hypnosis, I could sense there’s a great past life story awaiting us.
She started by describing a small Louisiana town in 1853. She’s happily married and has three small children. Who is she married to? You got it right! to our stubborn, marriage-refusing current boyfriend. He is a milkman delivering milk daily all around the county, in his wagon. They love each other a lot. They share a great deal of affection in the morning, when the husband leaves for work, and a loving welcome, when he returns home at night, not mention wild sex. But this is x rated….
One night he is unusually late. The wife’s heart hints that something is wrong. A knock on the door confirms the worst. The husband was killed in a cross fire, driving by a local pub.
The wife collapses when she hears the details. Her world turned dark. She raises the kids all by herself, doing odd jobs and even prostituting her body at night, after putting the children to sleep. The grief, the humiliation, the loneliness and pain are unbearable. If she didn’t have her children she would have killed herself, just to meet with her soul mate again. She never re-married and finally passed away at 70.
Still under the hypnosis, I asked Helen, what was the main lesson she planned to learn in the Louisiana life. She replied:” emotional dependency”. She had to keep on living despite the fact she lost her bigger-than-life love. I asked her to ascend to the light and tell me what happens after she left her old body behind. She described a heartfelt reunion with the soul that was her husband in Louisiana. She could re-experience their wonderful love. She said she is so happy, like “floating in the air…”.
I explained that after we die, we have a wider perspective of the life we just left, and of our current situation. I asked her to shed some light on her relationship today. She said they had incarnated together many times before, working on different lessons. In the current life, the guy does have a fear he carried over from the past life in Louisiana.
She realized he is afraid of marrying her in the current life, as he might die at a young age again, leaving her behind, physically alive but dead on the inside. His fear of commitment is not about him losing his freedom but an attempt to protect her from another disastrous life!
We did a retro healing; releasing her from the emotional dependency she experienced in 1853, reassuring her she can and will move on if something happens to him. When she opened her eyes she was shocked. Now she could see the situation in a whole new light.
They did meet in another life, had a great loving relationship that was lost in a split second.
It’s not that the guy doesn’t love her enough to marry her. He LOVES HER TOO MUCH…
A few months later I got a text from her saying they set a wedding date for next spring. I wished them great love and luck.
